If you are having ADD (attention deficit disorder), everyday life can be a bit boring, with a sense of inefficiency and of emptiness and a constant need to fill it with something: TV, music, internet.  Homework can be boring, and filling that Excel sheet with data everybody says is really important somehow doesn't make you do it.

If you are having ADD, you may be already fed up with others being fed up with you.  Why can't he just do that simple task? Why can't they just understand that for me this isn't simple? Misunderstandings that often add to an already existing sense of being a bit disconnected. Heard that before? People around you tell you to wake up? To listen to other people's needs and feelings? And how about connecting to yourself? Has it been sometimes difficult to listen to your own emotions, your own body, your own needs?

So far, lots of reasons to feel guilty and indeed many of us who have ADD are tending to feel guilty. For not meeting deadlines, for disappointing others who do, for having ADD.

Some people may think that you actually don't have ADD at all. They see you watching a full-length movie, keeping a three-hour long online conversation, or being fully engaged with some wonderful project for days, and all by remaining surprisingly focused. It's a mistake many of us make when we meet you. The fact is, if you have ADD, you have it. It's the type of attention that matters, not just any attention.

So here's perhaps the most distinctive manifestation of ADD. You may be struggling with boredom or not, having difficulties to connect to yourself or others or not, feeling guilty or not. But if you really are having ADD, it could boil down to this: a difficulty in feeling that things are happening in a sequence along a line of time. It's the flow of things: "First I do A, then B. Then, after I'll have done C, there's still D to check on". For other people, who do have it, being more "linear" and more "flowing", not having it often appears as chaotic. Sounds familiar?

So what are you good at, if you have ADD? Is it all bad? No! You are most likely finding it easy coming up with ideas. Many ideas, constantly. Switching between them, playing with them, coming back to them, throwing them, creating new ones, and again coming back to the old ones. Difficulty to flow like a river along a time line? Perhaps. Perhaps you're more like a fountain, or like the sea? Repetitive sometimes, but often fascinating, charming, surprising, and inner resources that help you do big things. I would guess it's the small stuff that you may have difficulties with, not the big things.

Another thing you are likely to be good at is, at times when things go wrong, or not according to the plan. When your friends get panic and confused, it's your time to feel alive, you wake up, and function. For you, chaos isn't a surprise, it's your home field. You work well in a frame work of chaos and it helps you deal well with surprises, and to come up with surprises.

So here's my main point. Alice, the real world person, goes to a wonder party, visits the amazing Wonderland, goes far out of her comfort zone - and possibly nothing of those would have hapened, had she not met someone with ADD.